Mediators Beyond Borders

 

Ken Cloke examined the challenge of exponential change and some of the sources of chronic global conflict in a world of interdependency. He pointed out that conflict is nearly always experienced interpersonally (all disputes take place between people) and yet we need to address the systemic nature of much conflict and the underlying social, organisational, economic and political causes, not just the symptoms. All conflicts possess characteristics that are similar, regardless of scale, and therefore we can adapt the techniques that work at one level to disputes at entirely different levels. Cloke referred to communication, negotiation, mediation, early intervention, community building, emotional and conflict resolution systems design skills to help to address conflict. He spoke of how to deal with resistance to change and of moving from argument to dialogue, agreeing ground rules, identifying commonalities, asking questions to elicit interests (with some brilliant examples!) and jointly defining and analysing differences in order to find collaborative solutions. As Margaret Mead said

 

“We are continually faced with great opportunities which are brilliantly disguised as unsolvable problems”.

 

Ken Cloke also ran an illuminating special session on victim offender mediation programmes, truth and reconciliation projects and restorative justice.

 

Daniel Bowling spoke eloquently about Bringing Peace into the Room (his book published in 2003) and the importance of reflective practice. He contrasted the exoteric (outward looking) with the esoteric (inward reflection). In striving for mastery of one’s art, he cited Tiger Woods and Michael Jordan to illustrate the importance of mastering our inner world in order to achieve external mastery. He emphasised the need to give up our reliance on certainty. Indeed the reality of duality or ambiguity was a theme in the congress:

 

·         the value of being able to hold two apparently mutually exclusive ideas in mind at the same time

·         recognition that two people with opposing views can both be right

·         understanding that fairness and wanting one’s share can co-exist

·         and that trust and mistrust, rationality and irrationality may be present simultaneously

 

Jean Paul Lederach (a speaker at the forthcoming European Mediation Conference in Belfast in April: www.mediationconference.eu) gave a fascinating insight into cultural issues and challenged many of our assumptions about how we do things. Avoiding our own preconceived ideas is critical as we find ways to identify solutions which work in the context of those involved and not by transferring from other situations, however successful.